Advice,  For Clients

How to be a Good Consumer of Porn

How to be a Good Consumer of Porn

A brief etiquette guide to buying, watching and paying for porn. 

Read key information first.

Do the model a favour, don’t ask a billion and one questions over 12 one-sentence emails. It not only takes up a lot of our time, but it really annoys us. Most of us spend time on graphics, webpages, maybe even a detailed FAQ, so your questions have usually already been answered before you even ask them.

Deciding your too good to read the information we’ve already put out means we’ll either ignore your email or we’ll just keep sending you to the same page you refuse to read.

The bottom line, check first. If the information isn’t on one of these pages, sure ask us. But please do your due diligence first.

Pay for the time you take up.

Every minute answering a question that’s already listed or replying to an email you already sent, is a minute we’re not earning money.

We also have to deal with an above-average rate of freeloaders as people love come into our inboxes, talk with us, exchange emails with us, and send unsolicited dick pics only to vanish and not pay. Our time is valuable. Sex workers are all sorts of humans; some of us are disabled, some of us are mothers, some of us run businesses on the side, and more.

Good clients know that our time is valuable, and pay for it.

Don’t add extras after the fact.

If you have already paid your custom, don’t turn around and add extras after-the-fact. Ask for them before paying. It saves everybody time and it’s the polite thing to do.

Be Honest

We’re not going to tease your fantasy out of you in a three day long back and forth email chain – we’re too busy for that honestly, and we know that for some it’s just a fantasy. So if there is something in particular that you want, tell us. Be honest about your sexual desires. You’ll find that most sex workers are open-minded.

Of course, it should go without saying, nothing illegal.

Don’t Haggle

The price you see is our price.

Trying to get a lower price demeans our value and our work. If we sell a custom clip for $400 dollars to you, because it includes all the elements you want, the price a reflection of the time, effort, and cost that goes into making the clip. It’s not a made-up number.

Some clips, for instance, hypnosis clips, require more time for effects and green screen work whilst some will require specialist outfits or equipment. We factor that cost into your custom.

Along the same line of thought, unless we’ve explicitly asked for ideas, don’t email us saying you got a great idea for a clip that is just your fantasy. We know. And if you do that, we will go out of our way not to film the idea you’ve sent us.

Fanmail

If you love your custom or the clip you’ve just brought that’s great! Let us know on our social media platforms, however, we don’t want a long 1,000 word detailed version, especially not in our inboxes – ideally, we want to know in a tip note.

On the other hand, if you’ve never brought a clip, and you send us email after email, and tweet after tweet telling us you love our work when you have just stolen it, keep quiet.

Respect our Limits!

In my mind, the most important one, respect our limits.

If you have lots of money, well done to you! But that doesn’t mean you can make models do whatever, just because you’re wealthy. Each individual sex worker has their own limits, so respect them. Don’t push and offer more money to go against what they’ve stated is a limit.

If a particular model doesn’t want to do something, ask someone else. Better yet, research if they will do what you want before you ask – this comes back to point number one.

Pay for your Porn

*sigh*

I wish I didn’t have to include this every single time I talk about porn, but I do. If you want us to carry on working, to keep producing high-quality clips, you have to pay.

Pirating content is so common now that we barely make the money back on the clip we just made. That is not a stable business model. If this keeps happening, people are going to stop producing or raise clip prices higher and higher.

You may go to the cinema, eat, and have drinks with your friends, so why don’t you pay for your porn?

I know some people reason that they don’t want to go looking for porn when they want to jack off, they want to jack off to the first clip they find and not fuss about with cards. In that case, why don’t you look at porn some other time, and start a collection? Find pieces in advance you want to watch when you masturbate. Some say it’s pointless to buy a clip just for 10 minutes, but you’re going to look at that clip time and time again.

I’m not saying rush to buy every clip right this second, I’m just saying if you want to consume, pay for your entertainment.

P.S No, do NOT send a cum tribute.

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You’ll notice that a lot of these come down to money, but that’s because it’s porn. Its sex work. It’s a transactional business that without money wouldn’t exist. There are amateur porn performers who make videos just fun, and that’s fine. You can find a lot of those on PornHub – just make sure it’s a verified account. Nowadays a lot of your favourite performers even upload some of their videos and teasers of new clips to sites like PornHub. For a lot of us though, porn our job. So, if you’re watching porn that hasn’t been released by a verified model, you’re most likely watching stolen porn.

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  • Self-professed 'Professional (Disabled) Internet Human' Ruby Rousson runs Arousibility, The Ruby Umbrella and a number of other sites that all aim to help disabled and chronically ill people in some way shape or form. Twitter and Instagram: @MissRubyRousson

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